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chargirlgenius ([personal profile] chargirlgenius) wrote2008-11-06 08:12 pm
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Mawwiage... is what bwings us... togevah... today

Many people have suggested a particular solution to the same-sex marriage conundrum. They would have the government recognize civil unions of everybody, and leave marriages to the church. This allows marriage to remain a religious institution, but allows everybody the exact same civil rights.

Only, I'm not really so keen on it.

You see, we were married in a civil ceremony, and that's the only ceremony we had, and likely the only one that we ever will have. I'm not any less "married" than the rest of you, and yes, I WANT to use the word "married". I'm also a religious person, and I know that in the eyes of God I am married.

Marriage is a human condition, not a religious one. Marriage is not something that only religious people have done. Marriage has always been considered a contract, and it wasn't even until the 12th century that the Catholic Church made it a sacrament. In the early Christian era, the presence of clergy was not required to make a partnership a marriage, even in the eyes of God.

I understand the idea of leaving government out of marriage, and once liked it. But it's not historically correct (at least from a Euro-centric perspective). Government has MORE business in the process of marriage than the churches. Once you were married, THEN you were subject to whatever expectations put were upon you by your church.

There's no reason to overhaul the whole system. There's no reason to make a complicated new set of laws to create a separate but equal condition. Use the laws we already have, and give people equal access and protections under those laws. Simply put, two people who love each other should have the ability to MARRY. Period, end of story.

When in Mexico...

[identity profile] ballistabob.livejournal.com 2008-11-07 12:05 pm (UTC)(link)
As [livejournal.com profile] belfebe could probably more eloquently explain, that is *exactly* the way marriage is handled in Mexico. The Mexican government does not recognize church marriages. You have to be married in a civil ceremony for anything to be legal. You can then go and have the religious ceremony, but it has no bearing on the legal status of your union. Personally, I think it is a great way of handling the situation. Covers that whole "separation of church and state" thing rather nicely. ;-)

Re: When in Mexico...

[identity profile] chargirlgenius.livejournal.com 2008-11-07 09:18 pm (UTC)(link)
It makes sense, but I think it would change our current system quite a bit. People are afraid of change, and any of these big overhauls would change it for everybody. Allowing same-sex couples the same rights as the rest of us would only change things for them, not for the rest of us.