On Relationships
Nov. 3rd, 2008 11:05 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
chargirlgeniusI remember realizing when my friends weren't perfect.
Scratch that. I've always known that, I know that nobody is perfect.
But, I do remember the day I realized that my friends weren't perfect, and that it was ok. It was more than ok. It meant that I didn't have to be perfect either.
When you first meet a new friend or lover, they seem like the perfect person. Maybe they have potential to be a match made in heaven, somebody amazing to look up to and to mentor you, or what have you. The longer you get to know them, the more cracks appear in the facade. It never fails. The better and deeper you know somebody, the more you get to know their flaws.
I've never loved anybody who didn't drive me batty on occasion. (Read: yes, you all drive me batty sometimes)
And honestly, I'm certain that nobody who has ever loved me hasn't been driven batty on a regular basis. (Read: yes, I know I drive YOU all batty sometimes)
But, that's ok. We're not perfect. Our friends aren't perfect. They drive us nuts, we drive them nuts, we all have personality quirks that grate a bit.
But, what makes them friends is that they still love you anyway (and vice versa). Not even always despite your flaws, but flaws and all.
Scratch that. I've always known that, I know that nobody is perfect.
But, I do remember the day I realized that my friends weren't perfect, and that it was ok. It was more than ok. It meant that I didn't have to be perfect either.
When you first meet a new friend or lover, they seem like the perfect person. Maybe they have potential to be a match made in heaven, somebody amazing to look up to and to mentor you, or what have you. The longer you get to know them, the more cracks appear in the facade. It never fails. The better and deeper you know somebody, the more you get to know their flaws.
I've never loved anybody who didn't drive me batty on occasion. (Read: yes, you all drive me batty sometimes)
And honestly, I'm certain that nobody who has ever loved me hasn't been driven batty on a regular basis. (Read: yes, I know I drive YOU all batty sometimes)
But, that's ok. We're not perfect. Our friends aren't perfect. They drive us nuts, we drive them nuts, we all have personality quirks that grate a bit.
But, what makes them friends is that they still love you anyway (and vice versa). Not even always despite your flaws, but flaws and all.
