By saying "I wish I didn't have to walk on eggshells", I do mean the abstract "I", as in, anybody who wants to ever talk about this.
I personally think it's best to keep the cheerleading towards one's path on a subliminal level (that is, leading by example), rather than explicitly popping up and telling people what they should or should not do, regardless of whether or not they want the advice.
Generally speaking, I agree. And it is the path that I personally take.
I do, however, think it's important to differentiate between generic "here's what you can do"s, and people going up to individuals at events, or even on their journals, and telling them what specifically they need to do differently. The latter is absolutely unacceptable. The former might generate a negative reaction, but although some act like it's the same thing, it's definitely not.
Fortunately or unfortunately, the original comment to which we're all objecting to is screened. Honestly, if she'd come out and said "I have a problem with you telling people what to do", it wouldn't have generated the traffic that it did. Instead, she said that anybody who wished to be "period" should use a tampon as their badge. Whether or not Corby was right to post, HER comment rightly generated a VERY negative reaction.
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Re: Fun with semiotics.
Date: 2008-11-25 09:51 pm (UTC)I personally think it's best to keep the cheerleading towards one's path on a subliminal level (that is, leading by example), rather than explicitly popping up and telling people what they should or should not do, regardless of whether or not they want the advice.
Generally speaking, I agree. And it is the path that I personally take.
I do, however, think it's important to differentiate between generic "here's what you can do"s, and people going up to individuals at events, or even on their journals, and telling them what specifically they need to do differently. The latter is absolutely unacceptable. The former might generate a negative reaction, but although some act like it's the same thing, it's definitely not.
Fortunately or unfortunately, the original comment to which we're all objecting to is screened. Honestly, if she'd come out and said "I have a problem with you telling people what to do", it wouldn't have generated the traffic that it did. Instead, she said that anybody who wished to be "period" should use a tampon as their badge. Whether or not Corby was right to post, HER comment rightly generated a VERY negative reaction.