Dreaded "truthtellers"

[chargirlgenius]

Has anybody else ever noticed that the phrase “I have an A-type personality” usually is a euphemism for “I’m a jerk”? Likewise “I like to tell it like it is” or “I call a spade a spade” usually means “I’m rude.”

I know a lot of people who have a-type personalities that *don’t* manage to offend everybody that they meet.

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[dragonlady7.livejournal.com]

The worst are the ones who are obsessed with "speaking truth to power". We have one such in our volunteer organization (it's an amateur sports league, and we hold big events and donate portions of the proceeds to charities). Every goddamn issue comes down to making the world a better place for her daughters, which includes her flipping out over us even debating supporting the local zoo ("Zoos are animal cruelty!") and insulting all cheerleaders when a local pro sports team's cheerleading squad offered to come to one of our events. (They work out in one of our team leaders' gym! They're athletes, and nice people to boot! But OHMIGOD cheerleading is antifeminist and horrible! Regardless of the fact that like a quarter of the girls on the league were cheerleaders in high school and found it a positive experience that they're proud of.)
Jeez, you know, it must be so nice to be able to immediately label good and evil and just flip out about them all the time, but it also used to be important to be considerate. I really really fear what she's actually teaching her daughters.
Especially since her husband is the league's videographer and overtly stated that he tried to include as many "ass shots" in the highlight reels as possible. Mostly of players who weren't exactly thrilled to see themselves in such a ... faceless... starring role.
Because that's not antifeminist.

Anyone who introduces themselves with a standard disclaimer immediately is on probation with me. Actually useful, thought-out warnings like, "I sometimes forget to be nice so remind me" and "I'm really sensitive to noise so I might snap at you if you're loud, don't take it personally" go a long way toward getting the benefit of the doubt, because they actually display some thought-out self-knowledge and actual concern for how you might make other people feel. But warnings like you mentioned? Yeah, someone noticed they had no friends and got those phrases out of a self-help book without actually thinking about whether these "qualities" in themselves are actually good ones.

[pirategirleee.livejournal.com]

Yeah I've often noticed the tendancy of these people to forget that their opinion is just that...an opinion and open for others to reject. Cuzz you know, they are so much wiser than everyone else....

:P